not my wedding venue, but amazing, right?!
Well, well, matey’s, it’s been a while since I’ve posted, hasn’t it? Nah, I don’t have any good excuses for not posting! This post wont’ be about recipes I’ve tried and failed (only one really so far) or my awesome trip to Kauai, but about the good juicy wedding stuff.
Now, many many aspects of a wedding are stressful. We can’t go into them at all in one post, suffice to say there have been several nights where I had trouble sleeping and was anxiously starting at my fiance sleeping peacefully beside me like a little lamb, wishing him awake so that we could discuss said issue. That particular issue (re: kids at the wedding, which is a hot topic on the wedding boards, let me tell you) was resolved in due course with good old compromise, a word which you will become VERY familiar with when planning a wedding!
One of the most pressing issues, that essentially will determine the following:
- your dress style– (ex: can’t have a huge cathedral drain and layers of tulle in an outdoor, July, east coast wedding unless you want to melt)
- your vibe/decor/ design scheme
- wedding date, based on what’s available
- all the rest of the costs
is your venue.
There are all the traditional ways to find the venue:
- search theknot.com, or wedding magazines and guides (like here comes the guide) that categorize venues by state or areas of that state
- you already know exactly what area you want to get married in, and target it that way
Here are some not -so-traditional ways:
- Blogs: go to your fave wedding blog and under the search type in, say, “los angeles.” You’ll get all the Los Angeles weddings. if you have the time and patience to comb through them, you will certainly see several weddings that suit your taste, and you can see exactly where those weddings took place. Before you get too excited though, try to get a price gage either on that site’s website, or on the phone, or in further communications with someone there. Don’t visit without knowing what you’re getting into!
- Google search. You can try: ” old hollywood glamour vintage wedding new york city” and see what comes up. A photographers blog, someone’s own wedding website… you never know. This is how my father found my wedding venue! He can’t remember exactly what he typed in, but it included the words “spanish style” and “outdoor.”
- Wedding planners— they’re a fount of knowledge on venues, obviously! I got ideas from wedding planners on where to research visit without even hiring them, or paying a cent for that advice. I was new to California and knew hardly anything besides the most famous (read, pricey and annoying) venues that are featured time and time again on blogs. Two different planners were able to give me great insight and tips.
What did I look for upon choosing a venue? Well, since a wedding in Mexico was off the table for several reasons, here’s what I thought was important:
- I wanted a relaxed, intimate, outdoor wedding, looking at beautiful nature, and in comfortable weather. That meant California to me, since the weather (i.e. rain) is easier to predict and deal with. That also told me that the place needs to have great outdoor space, and needs to not be enormous. Nothing against hotel ballrooms, but I knew that wasn’t for me.
- Is my venue close to several hotels? How long will people have to be in the car/ shuttle between the venue and the hotel?
- Do I like the people who I’m dealing with at the venue? Do they inspire my confidence and trust? Are we on the same page? Are they shilling salesman type people who just want me to spend spend spend , or do they want to give me suggestions on how to save money? Do they get back to me in a timely manner?
- Do I feel it — whatever I’m supposed to feel, that magical, i can get married here feeling? At my venue, I felt that within 15 minutes of being there and also felt like God was there. no joke. I also cried! You don’t have to cry, but that’s usually a great sign!
- You want to talk to other brides, ask for references, (they should give those to you no problem)– get an idea from someone else what their experience was. You are about to spend a CHUNK of money on this– wouldn’t you read reviews about a computer or TV before buying? Or a hotel review before booking? Do the same thing in this case.
I fell in love with my venue even when Mexico was still a possibility, and I loved it so much that it was totally overtaking all that I had felt about Mexico. I think I got extremely lucky. I had dreamt of getting married in a private home (hence the Mexico villa concept, which is still a great one for anyone else thinking about it!) since I was 19 and went to a relatives wedding in the mountains of Ecuador. I wanted that same intimate, lovely, carefree feeling–I just didn’t think I’d be able to find that in my price range in California, of all expensive places! But I (or my dad) did find it. The owners of the home don’t advertise on any wedding blogs, magazines, etc they don’t need to. So I wouldn’t have found them through there either. They also are so warm and kind, and provided me with a list of vendors that they’ve worked with, would give you a good deal, that they trust, etc. Awesome! It’s made my life extremely easy. F and I look at each other and go, dang , this has been pretty smooth so far and we knock wood rapidly so as to not jinx ourselves. More on vendors in another post since I have a lot to say about that separately.
Best of luck in your wedding planning!!! And for those who are curious– after my wedding, I will share the details of my venue.